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Dale,
Long ago I hurt my back in 1982. I was 28 and an RN working full time with a great boyfriend and we loved to dance (South American) and party, have fun, go to movies and all the good stuff young people do.
So when my world came crashing down I didn't know how to handle the fact that his didn't. I wanted to hold him back in my heart but knew I couldn't do that. Still, this took some years to learn actually, and several relationships after that.
I finally learned to be content with the fact I couldn't do something yet I could feel OK letting someone else do it because why not, they could and why should they suffer my pain when it wasn't theirs?
I firmly believe in NOT making others suffer my pain, but that might mean not sticking around me either if I'm in a snit with my painful backside! I sometimes needed or need time to myself for recovery while I just lie down and not move~
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